Abusers intimidating pets with staring
an organization or group), it is even more difficult to stand up for yourself.More insidious and pernicious is the type of bullying that has less to do about forcing you to do something and more to do with “putting you in your place”–minimizing or even destroying you in order to make someone else feel better about themselves.But because that feeling doesn’t last, they do it again and again.Sometimes the bully appears to lack insight into their own behavior (unwitting bully), but more often the bully does know yet elects to ignore the moral and ethical considerations by which the majority of people are bound. Or they have projected so much self-hatred on the other that they truly believe that those they are bullying deserve exactly what they are getting. Parents and older siblings have been known to bully. But what about those who threaten, shame, or intimidate you into doing things you don’t really want to do?
They can even do it in the guise of friendship or love.
You don’t have to attack a bully; you simply have to calmly and self-assuredly stand up for yourself.
You don’t want to give them reason to escalate by engaging in a heated or emotional manner.
It is a way to externalize their own feelings of insecurity, inferiority, and/or rage by putting those feelings on someone else and then attacking them.
Some bullying is so subtle that you really believe the bully.