Black women dating outside of their race
Since Black women have been hesitant to date interracially for so long, I do consider it “progress” that many of them are discovering that different races of men are willing to love and cherish them. Candice: Something I’ve also noticed lately is that more of my Black female friends have begun to look outside their race specifically due to their frustrations with dating Black men.I feel like this approach could be a bit problematic (because I don’t believe race determines the quality of man).Candice: There seems to be a stronger reaction to Black men who date outside their race than Black women who do the same. But when men do the same, it’s often seen as a betrayal. Christelyn: Actually, I’ve experienced that in the reverse.Historically, Black men have been dating and marrying interracially at higher rates than Black women for the last 40 years.Christelyn: I have tremendous respect for Shonda Rhimes. Neither of those characters are the caricature of a Black woman.We have layers, and like all women, we are complicated and splendid creatures.
Christelyn: As with most advocacy, my motivation comes from having my own experiences.When I started dating my husband back in 1999, there was absolutely no place, discussion or support for Black women who were dating and/or married interracially.Necessity is the mother of invention when it comes to the work I do!Candice: Another question I get a lot from Black women who are looking to date outside their race is how can they put themselves in the position to meet a man?Even in my own experience I feel like men either assume that I don’t date outside my race or they have hangups about how they’d introduce me to their friends/family (which presents another issue).
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But how would you respond to women who feel this way?