Christian parents and dating
Completely apart from Isaac, Abraham sends another guy off to find his son a wife.
Some code words and a camel ride later, Isaac and Rebekah are tented and covenanted in love.
We, as the church, need to be vigilant — and train our girls to be vigilant — to identify and guard them from such men.
At the same time, there are a lot of good men who simply need to learn and grow.
Anyone who’s tried and failed to get married reads that simplicity with at least a little bit of longing. Wait for the day dad sends her to Minneapolis on a camel? While we can certainly learn about love and marriage from Isaac and Rebekah, I don’t think God intended it to be a manual for getting married in twenty-first-century America.
I think most men wait for the suitor to come knocking, asking for the daughter’s hand in marriage. There are too many blessings to be had before she’s a fiancée.The options could be described like this: In one case, a daughter’s father . For whatever reason — distance, disagreement, divorce, disinterest — dad is out of the picture, and the wedding happens anyway. The relationship with the young woman didn’t end in marriage, and that was hard, but God used the dad to mature, correct, and encourage me.He might attend, but he had nothing to do with the union. If dad has typically picked, approved, conceded, or disappeared — what if instead dad in him and preparing him to make much of Jesus in dating and marriage? But the faithful father of a girl I wanted to date modeled some things for me I’d never experienced before. I have lots of affection, respect, and appreciation for him, and we’re still friends today.It actually makes for a dangerous situation because God means for spiritual headship and leadership to be a more seamless handoff, not this disjointed affair that leaves the young woman spiritually and emotionally uncovered from age fifteen until her wedding day.We’ve relegated dads to a last-minute interview before engagement when God meant for them to be active, available agents of wisdom and safekeeping. Foolish dads relish the gun-bearing, tough-guy role.