How to not be intimidating to others
A friend of mine is a prime example of an intimidating person.
She’s pretty, intelligent, confident, has a great education and a high-income job in finance.
What if you become intimidated by individuals or groups who are attractive and/or loud.
How do you even begin to put yourself at ease, or stop putting them on a social pedestal, so you can be yourself?
Therefore, it’s statistically sound to assume that there’s something (or several things) that you are better at than the intimidating person.
A lot of things are part of who you are: Mini exercise: What are some things you are good at?
In other words, there’s no reason for her to be intimidating.
CBT is a well-researched field and is used by psychologists all over the world when it comes to changing behavior and dealing with feelings.
Remember to view that person’s shortcomings from a compassionate perspective.
Who we are is made up of hundreds, perhaps thousands of traits.
As I’ve gotten to know her better she’s opened up about having a low self-esteem.
She feels safer when she can hide behind that perfect surface. An example is a psychopath without insecurities who just wants to intimidate others. Ironically, it’s often those who feel the most need to compensate for their insecurities who come off as the most intimidating.