Stories of black women dating white men
and pretty much everywhere with thriving gay nightlife! She was just making conversation, and she was doing most of the heavy lifting, so I let her flex her stuff. Actually, I find them more attractive than white people. In real life, the Kardashians and Jenners aside, Ariana Grande, Heidi Klum, Iggy Azalea, and Nicole Kidman, are just several famous white women who have fallen for famous black men (Rapper Big Sean, singer Seal, NBA star Nick Young, and Lenny Kravitz, respectively).
One of the first things she told me was how attractive she finds black men. In fact, although she complimented my biceps, she made no direct comment on my looks — unless you consider a compliment about “black men” in general a direct compliment to each one of us. This season on Hilary Duff’s Kelsey is in a lust triangle with a white political podcaster and a colleague who happens to be a man of color, and the interracial romance between the characters played by Allison Williams and Daniel Kaluuya was the crux of last year’s Oscar-nominated smash .
Clearly I was first and foremost a black man to her… She probably wouldn’t have been having the conversation with a straight black guy either.
As pick-up talk goes, it wasn’t even remotely promising. Maybe she wanted me to know that she had done well.
She was a chatty and congenial Aussie, with a distinctive no-bullshit edge. And a number of biracial celebrities — including Alicia Keys, Drake, Halle Berry, and Wentworth Miller — were born to white mothers and black fathers.
Most importantly on a Friday night, she was a straight woman in gay bar who wasn’t playing the I’m-such-a-fabulous-fag-hag card while taking up way more space than necessary. I have a theory about white women and black men, and it goes a little something like this.
Uninitiated straight white women who have yet to “go black” are probably just as curious as some of the gay white men who have pursued me.
However, once their curiosity is satisfied, their long-term behavior is probably less likely to be racially motivated.
White men generally flirt in the same way that they conduct business meetings. That’s why I say you may already be dating one because you may have misconstrued the seemingly platonic hangouts you’ve been having with Chad as non romantic, but to him, it’s a date. You may be tempted to be direct and flat out ask him, “Hey Chad, is this a date? Sensitive white dudes scare easily so tread lightly. I wouldn’t get thrown off by whether he makes a move on the first few of these “dates.” Like I said, they can be subtle and shy and slooooow, so give it some time.
Maybe you don’t have a particular “Chad” in mind but you watched the royal wedding or back episodes of “Scandal” or even re-watched Sanaa Lathan in “Something New” and you’re curious.
Maybe you have a specific white dude already in mind and you want some insider tips on how to navigate the ebony/ivory road.
I say, who cares why a person asked you out initially if it leads to something special. And what about your random (to Chad) black girl interests?
The stuff that he’s culturally grown up being into that you’ve never heard of or know nothing about and vice versa?
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Honestly, move over Serena Williams, because you’re in town now!